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Post by SoonDragon67 on Dec 21, 2013 21:27:32 GMT -5
You kids 8) You're WAY too young to be getting involved with women Dude, I just turned 16 yesterday. I'll be 18 in two years, ready for marriage. Granted most people don't meet their soul partners until their thirties, it is different for everyone. I should be ready for anything.... especially HER Don't ever marry anyone directly out of high school. Those types of marriages almost never work out. |
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Post by Straight Edge Steve on Dec 21, 2013 21:29:45 GMT -5
Dude, I just turned 16 yesterday. I'll be 18 in two years, ready for marriage. Granted most people don't meet their soul partners until their thirties, it is different for everyone. I should be ready for anything.... especially HER Don't ever marry anyone directly out of high school. Those types of marriages almost never work out. You are very right. And that would never be a problem I'd have anyways, being that no one could possibly want to spend the rest of their life with me. |
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:30:34 GMT -5
You kids 8) You're WAY too young to be getting involved with women Dude, I just turned 16 yesterday. I'll be 18 in two years, ready for marriage. Granted most people don't meet their soul partners until their thirties, it is different for everyone. I should be ready for anything.... especially HER Two things; first, there's no such thing as a soul mate, and second, people who wait until their 30s to get married are actually a lot more likely to end up divorced and alone than people who get married in their late teens/early 20's 8) That said, I still think you're a goon for getting knotted up over some girl. |
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Post by ethanm1834 on Dec 21, 2013 21:30:41 GMT -5
Well you'll just have struggles marrying out of high school. However if it's the one you'll know.
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:31:24 GMT -5
Don't ever marry anyone directly out of high school. Those types of marriages almost never work out. Actually... the stats say the reverse. The younger you get married (and not coincidentally, the fewer people you've dated), the better your odds of a long marriage. |
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Dec 21, 2013 21:32:03 GMT -5
Well you'll just have struggles marrying out of high school. However if it's the one you'll know. This dude believes in soul mates. I'm guessing you're unmarried? |
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Dec 21, 2013 21:33:06 GMT -5
Don't ever marry anyone directly out of high school. Those types of marriages almost never work out. Actually... the stats say the reverse. The younger you get married (and not coincidentally, the fewer people you've dated), the better your odds of a long marriage. Do they really? I've always heard that people who marry once they graduate have more difficulties in their marriage. |
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Post by ethanm1834 on Dec 21, 2013 21:35:25 GMT -5
Well you'll just have struggles marrying out of high school. However if it's the one you'll know. This dude believes in soul mates. I'm guessing you're unmarried? I am, I don't particularly believe in a soul mate more as someone that you can tolerate enough to go the long hall with. Some one that you want to be with and can't imagine life without. I've had..uh about 3 shots at marriage with a woman that haven't fleshed out. However the current Gf and I are pretty serious. To clear it up. I've never been married I've just had some intense relationships that didn't make the distance. |
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Post by Straight Edge Steve on Dec 21, 2013 21:36:08 GMT -5
Dude, I just turned 16 yesterday. I'll be 18 in two years, ready for marriage. Granted most people don't meet their soul partners until their thirties, it is different for everyone. I should be ready for anything.... especially HER Two things; first, there's no such thing as a soul mate, and second, people who wait until their 30s to get married are actually a lot more likely to end up divorced and alone than people who get married in their late teens/early 20's 8) That said, I still think you're a goon for getting knotted up over some girl. I normally think that girls are utter floozies and not worth my affection. But no matter how liberal she I- ok ok I think I'm done with that. I use the word 'soul mate' referring to who God has planned for us to marry.
And dammit now I'm getting differing advices. WHO DO I LISTEN TOO!?
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:37:18 GMT -5
Do they really? I've always heard that people who marry once they graduate have more difficulties in their marriage. "Difficulty" is subjective of course, and that might be entirely true... but early difficulties are part of what cements a pairing. Nobody is your $#@!ing soul mate. Every relationship is going to have trouble, and you'll either grow up and get through it, or have a toddler temper tantrum and call it quits. It's often the "us against the world" period that teaches you to move past shallow impressions of romantic "love" and into true understanding that genuine love is a choice that you make on a minute by minute basis, that requires a deep personal commitment, and that will not always be accompanied by warm fuzzy feelings for one another. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. People who believe that they need to have college educations, good jobs, etc before they ever get married are like the people that think that if they beat everyone off the starting line, they're going to win the race. It doesn't work that way. |
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Post by Straight Edge Steve on Dec 21, 2013 21:39:09 GMT -5
Do they really? I've always heard that people who marry once they graduate have more difficulties in their marriage. "Difficulty" is subjective of course, and that might be entirely true... but early difficulties are part of what cements a pairing. Nobody is your $#@!ing soul mate. Every relationship is going to have trouble, and you'll either grow up and get through it, or have a toddler temper tantrum and call it quits. It's often the "us against the world" period that teaches you to move past shallow impressions of romantic "love" and into true understanding that genuine love is a choice that you make on a minute by minute basis, that requires a deep personal commitment, and that will not always be accompanied by warm fuzzy feelings for one another. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. People who believe that they need to have college educations, good jobs, etc before they ever get married are like the people that think that if they beat everyone off the starting line, they're going to win the race. It doesn't work that way. So I should marry my college professor? Jk
I understand what you are saying. I know a youth pastor who went through college with his wife and they are just fine together.
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Dec 21, 2013 21:40:20 GMT -5
So what you're saying WK is that if one does not understand what marriage entails, one is likely not going to have a good marriage?
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Post by Straight Edge Steve on Dec 21, 2013 21:41:15 GMT -5
I've seen quite a bit of my parents marriage, and what I've gained from it is that arguing with your mate actually brings you closer together.
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:42:05 GMT -5
So what you're saying WK is that if one does not understand what marriage entails, one is likely not going to have a good marriage? LOL it's impossible to know until you're in the thick of it, unfortunately. You can know with your brain but you still really don't know. Shacking up doesn't help either, you can't "practice" marriage. |
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:42:18 GMT -5
I've seen quite a bit of my parents marriage, and what I've gained from it is that arguing with your mate actually brings you closer together. In a sense, yes. |
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Dec 21, 2013 21:43:12 GMT -5
I've seen quite a bit of my parents marriage, and what I've gained from it is that arguing with your mate actually brings you closer together. Good luck with your relationships then. Remember, everyone is different. Some people might be brought closer together through argument, and others might be split farther apart. There is no universal lesson you can learn when it comes to socializing with people. |
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Post by ethanm1834 on Dec 21, 2013 21:44:16 GMT -5
So what you're saying WK is that if one does not understand what marriage entails, one is likely not going to have a good marriage? LOL it's impossible to know until you're in the thick of it, unfortunately. You can know with your brain but you still really don't know. Shacking up doesn't help either, you can't "practice" marriage. I don't know it stopped me from marrying my horrible ex. We just couldn't stand being under the same roof and didn't handle the pressure well together. Thus crumbled, before we'd shacked up I was thinking of marriage. I feel I dodged a bullet. |
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Post by Straight Edge Steve on Dec 21, 2013 21:49:39 GMT -5
I'm thinking too far ahead. If I focus too much on the future, I'll be distracted while my unstable brain melts to mush.
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Post by wildknight on Dec 21, 2013 21:51:43 GMT -5
Good luck with your relationships then. Remember, everyone is different. Some people might be brought closer together through argument, and others might be split farther apart. There is no universal lesson you can learn when it comes to socializing with people. Sure there are. In this case, I would say that the question is not "is arguing healthy?" but "how much arguing is healthy?" If you never argue, then it's a guarantee that things are festering beneath the surface. If you argue too much, it's a guarantee that the arguments you are having aren't helping you to clear the air. It's kind of funny; we acknowledge the need for communication in human relationships, yet adamantly deny that arguments are communication 8) |
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Post by ethanm1834 on Dec 21, 2013 21:51:56 GMT -5
I'm thinking too far ahead. If I focus too much on the future, I'll be distracted while my unstable brain melts to mush. You've got a ways to go young lad. Don't worry about it so much. |
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