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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2014 13:09:39 GMT -5
One of my teachers talked to me about why I sit alone, how it's not good, that kind of stuff. However, I feel that I'm far more productive when I'm alone. So, in your opinion, is it bad or good?
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Post by WSS? on May 3, 2014 13:27:08 GMT -5
Depends, really.
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Post by pinksparklepuff on May 3, 2014 13:35:00 GMT -5
It's all a matter of opinion.
Your teacher may be a social butterfly and find it odd, if not disconcerting, that people (like you, you friggin' weirdo) have a very anti-social lifestyle.
Unless you're committing crimes, you are who you are and nobody should ever attempt to change that.
It would be disrespectful both to you and in a way disrespectful to God and the plans he has for you.
There are no pros in favor of either extroversion or introversion, just different pros and cons.
There is no possible way, unless you're a criminal or an assclown, that a personality can be bad.
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Post by WSS? on May 3, 2014 13:39:09 GMT -5
There is no possible way, unless you're a criminal or an ass clown, that a personality can be bad. Dammit |
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Post by pinksparklepuff on May 3, 2014 13:42:04 GMT -5
There's a reason nobody likes you.
It's your clowny personality. Get off these message boards you schmuck.
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Post by SoonDragon67 on May 3, 2014 13:45:30 GMT -5
It's your clowny personality. You're the one nobody likes. You...80s techno hipster! |
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Post by pinksparklepuff on May 3, 2014 13:49:54 GMT -5
You dare to utilize the 80's techno hipsters in the form of an insult?!
Filthy heathen! Lizard worshippers like you are the reason we can't have fun!
Somebody get Bane to banish this "SoonDragon" immediately!
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2014 13:54:15 GMT -5
Its really about what kind of person you are in real life. But in the end the outside world we call society will call you anti-social, a weirdo, or judge you because of this. I'm talking about my life right now, because i got all this from my teachers, the kids had/have no problem with me, but the teachers (i'm pretty sure) hate me. I like/always liked being home, not talking to anybody, and the only socializing things i do is being here/playing multiplayer games. Now don't get me wrong, i like talking to people, but i just don't feel like i'm myself. I feel like i'm in a cage (And many people thing this should be the other way around) and can't enjoy myself, like i do when i play a good video game. This all is probably because i had an illness (for 10 years) that i can't go out, can't watch violent things, and can't do pretty much any sport. Now, that i leaved the pills, and considered (half) good, i can watch violent things, and can go outside. But in the end, i don't like being outside. Soooooo many people told me to "go out and have friends", but i'd rather be "anti-social" and have real friends i can't meet in this life (like you guys), than have a bunch of fake friends i can meet but want to be friends with me 'till i have money. And i can tell you, even though sometimes i think about what i'm doing with my life, being so lonely, i tell myself that this'll not be like this forever. I CAN talk with people, and CAN make friends, but honestly, i don't want to make friends in a society like this (Miskolc). In the end, i may be lonely until i die, but i'll know that i didn't had friends that only were my friends because i have money (which i don't).
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Post by CaptainDamage on May 3, 2014 21:42:57 GMT -5
Being lonely can also help you. Friends can't back stab you if you don't have any. I have friends but I really don't trust them.
Family is All.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2014 1:21:32 GMT -5
Being lonely can also help you. Friends can't back stab you if you don't have any. I have friends but I really don't trust them. Family is All. That's...what i said. But if you look at the "brighter" side, you do have friends you can trust. Us. |
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Post by CaptainDamage on May 4, 2014 1:45:34 GMT -5
Hard to trust someone on the internet.
Back to topic, I hate how people look at the lonely people as Sad people. I can see why but still.
Friends come and go. Don't expect to still hang on all your friends after School. I bet I will use nearly all of them.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2014 5:35:48 GMT -5
Back to topic, I hate how people look at the lonely people as Sad people. I can see why but still. :thumbsup: And not just as sad people, but as weird people. Whenever I turn down someone's offer to come it with them at lunch (usually due to the fact that I know I'll get ignored), they always look at me like I'm weird. |
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Post by wildknight on May 4, 2014 6:54:18 GMT -5
Psychologically, it is destructive. Isolation and mental illness are absolutely, 100%, guaranteed, confirmed, with no question raised by any sane person, linked. Isolation leads to a whole host of psychological issues.
The question is not "is being a loner bad?" Yes, it is. With all due respect to all of the "it depends" responses here, those are the opinions of people who aren't educated on the issue enough to answer the question. The question you should really be asking yourself is "am I a genuine loner, or am I someone who doesn't have friends at school?" There is a huge difference. If you have close relationships with your parents (and if you have them, siblings), you are not a "loner." You have a different social support structure than most kids your age, but you're not isolated. It would still probably be better if you had a friend or two in school, but ultimately you're still on pretty good footing.
If, however, you legitimately have no personal, emotional connections with people that you can see and touch on a regular basis... yes, that is something to be very concerned about.
As with a lot of other behaviors... isolating yourself may be the easiest path for you right now, but it's also a very self-destructive one.
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Post by CaptainDamage on May 4, 2014 6:57:58 GMT -5
Being a Hermit is a bad thing. Or if your doing it for the right cause.
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Post by CaptainDamage on May 4, 2014 7:00:13 GMT -5
Back to topic, I hate how people look at the lonely people as Sad people. I can see why but still. :thumbsup: And not just as sad people, but as weird people. Whenever I turn down someone's offer to come it with them at lunch (usually due to the fact that I know I'll get ignored), they always look at me like I'm weird. I am in a group. But I'm the quite one. Since it's funny cause I am usually loud. Just thought "Is this group really for me?" |
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Post by charliebucketsgranpa on May 5, 2014 8:33:59 GMT -5
Being a loner can be a bad thing. Like Knight said, isolation can lead to insanity. I'm having trouble remembering what the specific name of them was but a certain sect of early Christians believed the best way to worship was to go up in the woods and being with God by yourself, it resulted them a lot of them going nuts. And, being a loner myself, a lot of times it results in you not having very many friends. However, I do believe it's better to be alone then hang out with a bunch of a**holes or the wrong crowd. The best solution is to find a good group of people to hang out with that aren't involved in drugs, alcohol, etc.
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Post by WhoCares? on May 5, 2014 8:44:09 GMT -5
There is nothing wrong with being a loner. I mean, I'm a loner and I turned out alright. But in the case that somebody doesn't talk to or hang out with anyone, then there is something wrong.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2014 9:01:27 GMT -5
However, I do believe it's better to be alone then hang out with a bunch of a**holes or the wrong crowd. This! |
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Post by wildknight on May 5, 2014 10:19:11 GMT -5
There is nothing wrong with being a loner. Yes there is. I can recommend you a number of books on the subject. ... said Ted Kaczynski, Jeffrey Dahmer, et al... |
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Post by wildknight on May 5, 2014 10:22:15 GMT -5
Being a loner can be a bad thing. Like Knight said, isolation can lead to insanity. I'm having trouble remembering what the specific name of them was but a certain sect of early Christians believed the best way to worship was to go up in the woods and being with God by yourself, it resulted them a lot of them going nuts Ascetics. As opposed to Monasticism, which is living away from the world but in groups. Both were (and continue to be) pretty screwed up movements. Again, however, I feel the need to point out the difference between "being a loner" and "not having a group of same(ish) aged peers with whom you "hang out." There is a tremendous gap between those two lifestyles. |
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