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Post by wildknight on Jun 29, 2014 6:00:05 GMT -5
Honor they Father and they Mother that it may be well with thee and that thou may live long on the Earth
... yes, even when you think they're dicks.
You would be SHOCKED how much a change in attitude on YOUR part can affect the behavior of the other person. I have learned this not only in my relationship with my parents and brother, but in an extreme way with my wife. A few years ago we had divorce papers in hand, it was simply a matter of standing before the judge and having the judge approve them. My wife hated me (in many ways, for legitimate reasons) and wanted nothing to do with me anymore. I was desperate to save my marriage and I prayed for a solution. I went to the word of God and found that the Bible frequently directs us as to how we should behave in our various relationships... and that that those directions are not merely there because God likes rules, they're there because following them has a strong tendency to make your life better.
And no, it really doesn't matter if, in reality or from your perspective, the other person isn't living up to "their end of the bargain." It doesn't change what your responsibility to them is in any fashion. You do your part and stick to it even when it's difficult, and chances are you'll see a change in the other person/people. Nothing is 100%. People can have hard hearts and choose to remain hard hearted, but the odds are against it unless they're psychologically unstable or something.
I'm not saying that this is easy. I know it's not. There are days when I would rather not even look at my wife because I'm so pissed off about something she's done or wounded by something she's said to me... but because I chose to fight for the marriage, I have a 9 month old son and a wife who planned our family vacation this summer around going to a super hero museum that I saw on TV even though she couldn't care less about that sort of thing, because she knows that I do, and that matters to her.
... if, on the other hand, your relationship with your Father doesn't improve, just remember that suffering produces perseverance, and perseverance produces character 8) My Mom is a little batty and always will be. I've accepted this and simply do my best to respect her without letting her bizarre thinking impact my wife and kids too much.
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Post by charliebucketsgranpa on Jun 29, 2014 13:16:08 GMT -5
Kind of a funny story. Not a serious dilemma or anything but anyway, I was at a the house of a couple of friends (brothers) last weekend and brought my 3DS so we could battle/trade Pokemon. Jump to this yesterday and my 3DS started to get a low battery so I went to get my charger from where I usually keep it and it isn't there. I then realize that I had it at my friends house and I probably left it down there. So I messaged them and told them I possibly left the charger down there and they said they would look for it. A few hours later they told me they hadn't found it and so I said I'd just buy a new one tomorrow (today). So I bought a new one this morning and as soon as I got in from walking I opened it and as I was opening it my sister told me they messaged her and told her they found it. :cry:
$10 down the drain. Oh well, at least I have two now in case I lose one. Also, I can't take back the new one because it's opened.
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Post by iodill8 on Jul 5, 2014 21:53:14 GMT -5
I'm in Pennslyvania.
My family and I went to a church camp meeting today, and it was full of bugs and the smell of manure.
We stayed until after 8 and we went to an aunts house to eat. I eventually find out that we are staying by her....
I cannot catch a break. I don't think there's space, and I just want to go home to where we were staying at and lie in bed.
NOT too much to ask, but now I'm stuck and frustrated. I'm in church clothes and I want more than ANYTHING to change in to my "jammies".
Ugh.
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Jul 5, 2014 22:12:53 GMT -5
I'm in Pennslyvania. My family and I went to a church camp meeting today, and it was full of bugs and the smell of manure. We stayed until after 8 and we went to an aunts house to eat. I eventually find out that we are staying by her.... I cannot catch a break. I don't think there's space, and I just want to go home to where we were staying at and lie in bed. NOT too much to ask, but now I'm stuck and frustrated. I'm in church clothes and I want more than ANYTHING to change in to my "jammies". Ugh.  |
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Post by iodill8 on Jul 5, 2014 22:13:34 GMT -5
I'm in Pennslyvania. My family and I went to a church camp meeting today, and it was full of bugs and the smell of manure. We stayed until after 8 and we went to an aunts house to eat. I eventually find out that we are staying by her.... I cannot catch a break. I don't think there's space, and I just want to go home to where we were staying at and lie in bed. NOT too much to ask, but now I'm stuck and frustrated. I'm in church clothes and I want more than ANYTHING to change in to my "jammies". Ugh. Totally. |
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Post by wildknight on Jul 5, 2014 22:33:48 GMT -5
It is a "first world problem" but it's also a legitimate concern. Being stuck outside of our comfort zone for too long can make is restless, weary, and irritable. "Try to make the best of it" is totally cliche... but it's really the best advice I can give as well. Sometimes "fake it" is the best you've got, and sometimes if you do you even find yourself having a good time, somehow.
As a Christian, I would recommend prayer, first for perseverance, but also that the Spirit might use your time there in some way to be beneficial to yourself and those around you.
.... if none of that helps, headphones? Really, a walkman (yeah yeah I'm a caveman) turned up really loud and headphones is the only way I survived family gatherings in my late teens 8)
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Post by iodill8 on Jul 9, 2014 18:58:15 GMT -5
It is a "first world problem" but it's also a legitimate concern. Being stuck outside of our comfort zone for too long can make is restless, weary, and irritable. "Try to make the best of it" is totally cliche... but it's really the best advice I can give as well. Sometimes "fake it" is the best you've got, and sometimes if you do you even find yourself having a good time, somehow. As a Christian, I would recommend prayer, first for perseverance, but also that the Spirit might use your time there in some way to be beneficial to yourself and those around you. .... if none of that helps, headphones? Really, a walkman (yeah yeah I'm a caveman) turned up really loud and headphones is the only way I survived family gatherings in my late teens 8) Knight, you haven't been a teenager since 1994. We've developed touch screen, multitasking, MP3 players since then. C'mon man. Jk |
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Post by wildknight on Jul 9, 2014 20:41:55 GMT -5
It is a "first world problem" but it's also a legitimate concern. Being stuck outside of our comfort zone for too long can make is restless, weary, and irritable. "Try to make the best of it" is totally cliche... but it's really the best advice I can give as well. Sometimes "fake it" is the best you've got, and sometimes if you do you even find yourself having a good time, somehow. As a Christian, I would recommend prayer, first for perseverance, but also that the Spirit might use your time there in some way to be beneficial to yourself and those around you. .... if none of that helps, headphones? Really, a walkman (yeah yeah I'm a caveman) turned up really loud and headphones is the only way I survived family gatherings in my late teens 8) Knight, you haven't been a teenager since 1994. We've developed touch screen, multitasking, MP3 players since then. C'mon man. Jk I have a very nice tablet, thank you very much. I still find music to be preferable for ignoring people. The headphones send a message. People these days are so $#@!ing rude that they don't seem to care if I'm obviously reading, they'll bother me anyway. I HATE when a random stranger in a waiting room asks me what I'm reading. |
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Post by WSS? on Jul 9, 2014 20:56:12 GMT -5
My face is structured weird, so that when I smile, it looks like I'm not having any emotion, when I'm not having any particular emotion I look like I'm pissed. As such, people tend not to interrupt me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2014 21:25:32 GMT -5
I look stupid when I smile, so I usually have no expression on my face, which looks like I'm extremely irritated.
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Post by WhoCares? on Jul 9, 2014 21:31:30 GMT -5
Meh, I look sad when I'm happy.
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Post by SoonDragon67 on Jul 9, 2014 21:37:31 GMT -5
Meh, I look sad when I'm happy. Wait, you're smiling in your avatar?! |
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Post by WhoCares? on Jul 9, 2014 21:39:44 GMT -5
Meh, I look sad when I'm happy. Wait, you're smiling in your avatar?! I'd say Roman looks more confident than sad, but sure. |
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Post by WSS? on Jul 9, 2014 21:41:23 GMT -5
To me, Roman looks like he's making a decision.
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Post by WrestleClown on Jul 9, 2014 21:44:06 GMT -5
My face is always locked into a mischievous grin which hides the next manipulative plan building in my mind. Hell of a poker face too... *Honk* |
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Post by RandomGB on Jul 9, 2014 21:46:50 GMT -5
or a I"M ABOUT TO KILL you face but well who knows the difference.
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Post by BaneTheDestroyer on Jul 17, 2014 3:24:01 GMT -5
I miss my ex, lol. Life can really fricken kick ya when you're down  |
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Post by iodill8 on Jul 18, 2014 8:06:52 GMT -5
I miss my ex, lol. Life can really fricken kick ya when you're down Awww, Bane. I didn't even know.... (Not that I was supposed to, lol) Sorry for your loss man. I've never been in a relationship before so... yeah. |
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